Wishing yourself the best, oops is that sacrilege? Not really, St. Augustine said pray for yourself… Buddhists teach the loving kindness meditation where you actually try to wish for yourself to experience happiness and the root of happiness, then once you have got that down pat you wish it for others. If you can’t wish it for yourself…would you want someone who is unable to wish happiness for themselves to wish it for you, how effective could they be then? The first time it can be surprisingly odd and even not easy to wish happiness for yourself actively and in a meditation focused way, which makes you feel really pathetic which makes it even harder…anyway Pema Chodron leads this meditation on CD and it brought me to tears many times; it is the single most powerful entry into loving your enemies (finding open compassion for them, it is very strange) that I have ever experienced. In fact if you really don’t want to forgive someone just don’t try her CD: Pema Chodron’s CD.
Anyway the question is what makes you happy? What makes you peaceful? What increases the love you experience around you?